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  1. 6 minutes ago, Matt said:

    Sounds like you've had some horrible experiences, I'm sorry to read that.

    A little rough and tumble in the right setting has always been a, predominantly male,  form of teasing and play. It's never affected me in the way it has you though so it's hard for me to agree that its never the right thing because I've not had an issue with it (but know bullying all to well). 

    As you said, context and relationships. This is all about clicks though.

    Apart from my prick of an old man, I’ve been lucky and escaped this type of attention, I’m also quite big and can look after myself which helps.  But it’s an issue that I’m pretty hot on, I’ll always call it out.    I’ve seen it around me all too often and just make people and things miserable.

    Lets hope this is something which has been blown out of proportion.

  2. On 16/03/2024 at 13:56, MikeO said:

    Disagree.

    There are plenty of people who I could give a friendly slap to who I know would take it in the manner it's intended, doesn't everyone have mates/family/colleagues like that? But I wouldn't do it to my bank manager. 

    There's not one rule fits all.

    We’ll have to agree to disagree then.

    Context and the relationships of those involved are critical, but I’ve seen ‘friendly’ slaps many times and the always turn out badly for everyone.

    My father (a bully) always thought it was hilarious to give out friendly slaps, and worse.  It wasn’t, it was always the act of a bully trying to place himself as the big man. And it never worked out. And of course if anyone tried to do the same to him, that was always a disaster too.
     

    The last time I saw something like this, it was in a work environment a few years ago. Someone (a woman actually, and also a bully) gave a friendly slap to a junior member of the team. Turned out there were others, and led to two years of complaints and misery where I work. 
     

    Even on the Undr The Cosh podcast, who like a bit of top bants, with hindsight admit that this behaviour is not on and you don’t know what other people’s mental health is or how they are taking it.

    This behaviour never helps, is never a laugh and nearly always makes a situation worse, in my experience.

    If it happened as reported, looks like it’s worked out really well for all those involved doesn’t it?

    The only exception for this is the ‘I CANT BELIEVE YOUVE DONE THIS’ meme.

  3. If it is true, it’s unacceptable from Dyche.  Putting or raising your hands on anyone, even as a joke is band out of order.  
     

    Regardless of who it is doing it, or the context.  What possible good could have come of it.  Clearly indicates that there are tensions in the squad, and between some players and the manager, and that it’s not just footballing reasons that Dyche doesn’t rate Patterson.  If it happened.

  4. Could have been 4 legit pens today to them.

    I can stomach losing, but I can't deal with the fact that we always find a way to balls everything up. Like we have Terry Fuckwits in every position  on and off the pitch.

  5. 6 hours ago, StevO said:

    You fucking broke him. Thanks for that!! 
    He’s been crap since you posted this. 😂

    It's not me, it's his face.  I don't understand it.  He's got a massive head covered in face, this sort of Easter Island head crossed with a 16th century Franciscan Monk. So blame that. He got an assist though yesterday, for which I will take full credit.

  6. 1 minute ago, Hafnia said:

    Not really.  He made saves that you expect to see. We don't create enough quality chances or finish well enough so each miss feels bigger

    I think he was MOTM. The pen goes in, or that McNeil chance and totally different game.

    But we were wank and fell apart.

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