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And (believe it or not, where does the time go) today is the five year anniversary of my last treatment, which means I'm all clear. I still have one final check to come in May but it's just a formalit

Not going to turn this into a "cancer diary" because those want a bit more info are getting it already but I'll update briefly on occasion because of all of the kind responses.   Surgery last week w

It was perfect Haf, went exactly as planned down to the last detail. Celebrant was superb, "wake" was joyful. Seems ridiculous to say but the best day I've had in weeks.

3 hours ago, Palfy said:

Off to Italy on Wednesday to give my eldest daughter away she's getting married on the Friday, what's so difficult about that you may be wondering, well he's a Utd supporter add that to my youngest daughters fella being a red Shiite and I hope you can feel my pain.

Congrats Palfy enjoy what is bound to be a grand day.

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3 hours ago, Palfy said:

Off to Italy on Wednesday to give my eldest daughter away she's getting married on the Friday, what's so difficult about that you may be wondering, well he's a Utd supporter add that to my youngest daughters fella being a red Shiite and I hope you can feel my pain.

It'll get worse when you get the bar and it's your round in Italy €€€

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On 29/07/2019 at 21:09, Palfy said:

Off to Italy on Wednesday to give my eldest daughter away she's getting married on the Friday, what's so difficult about that you may be wondering, well he's a Utd supporter add that to my youngest daughters fella being a red Shiite and I hope you can feel my pain.

I thought you’d gotten seriously ill posting in this thread :shakingfist:

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16 minutes ago, MikeO said:

Been asked to do a 45 second "selfie" for a larger Macmillan vid, hate having my photo taken let alone stuff like :unsure:

You’re a survivor mate just think how much hope and belief your vid could give others who are in the position you were in, it’s a no brainer mate you know you’ve got to do. 

We can’t all be photogenic some have to have ugly mugs, put that to one side and get on with it😀

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13 hours ago, Palfy said:

You’re a survivor mate just think how much hope and belief your vid could give others who are in the position you were in, it’s a no brainer mate you know you’ve got to do. 

We can’t all be photogenic some have to have ugly mugs, put that to one side and get on with it😀

Thanks mate yeah I've agreed to do it, just need to work out what to say.

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1 minute ago, Matt said:

We don’t like you having your photo taken either mate :P 

Cameras lie; they always increase my waist size (and my age) and for some reason are incapable of recognising my lustrous locks and end up depicting some overweight old bald bloke that I've never seen before:dontknow: 

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As I said in the first post in this thread six and a half years ago, "Right, difficult one this and something that I've thought long and hard about making "public" within TT, but as it's coming to a bit of a head I thought maybe I would.
Should point out at this stage that this is personal stuff and nothing to do with Everton, sport, what I had for breakfast or what movies/music I'm currently listening to so anyone not interested beyond any of those things should look away now.....completely understand that people take TT at different levels and that's fine, all members and approaches are equally valid."

But TT, and members past and present, has/have been a huge part of my life for more than fifteen years now so the time has come to come clean on my current situation. First, and strangely not worst, my cancer has returned. I thought something wasn't right early July so went through series of tests/scans/biopsies which ended with the cancer being confirmed at the end of the month, it's actually not strictly speaking a recurrance because it's in a slightly different place to the last one but still in my throat. My only chance of surviving this time (can't have radio/chemo twice in the same place because of the damage RT in particular causes/caused) is an "extended laryngectomy" which means my voice box and part of my tongue will have to be removed and consequently I won't be able to talk, though there is a possibility of implants later that will give me some sort of artificial voice (though if I'm going to sound like a dalek I'll give it a miss). Also, will have to breathe through a hole in my neck (stoma) rather than nose/mouth which will likely feel a little weird. Eight hours surgery and probably two weeks in hospital pencilled in for early next month. The aim is for me to be able to eat and drink afterwards but no guarantees, possibly tube fed for life.

But like I said, not the worst of it. That is the fact that my wife, Debbie, went to bed on August 3rd and didn't wake up on the 4th, died in her sleep at 53. Impossible to describe the last couple of weeks or so; I don't have the words and none of our friends/family do and I don't expect anyone here to have them either. She had a bad chest that our GP had given her an x-ray referral for six weeks before she died but with virus delays her appt dropped through the door on August 5th. I was tempted to say yes do the x-ray people and tell them they'd find her in the mortuary but didn't. If there was no virus and she'd been seen immediately could something have been done? I don't know and there's really no point in getting angry about it, many people will die and already have as a result of the virus due not being able to see the people thay should when they needed to. Post mortem said Deb died from bronchopneumonia and lung abscess, but I've yet to speak to a doctor who could explain to me why.

Anyway, those are the bare bones of the crap that's rained down on me recently. Her funeral is next Friday and the day before I see my "team" and hopefully get a date for surgery. I'll still be here whenever I can and no plans (yet) to amputate my fingers so I'll be able to type.

Sorry to be so depressing (again).

Best wishes to all, friend and foe alike.

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16 minutes ago, MikeO said:

As I said in the first post in this thread six and a half years ago, "Right, difficult one this and something that I've thought long and hard about making "public" within TT, but as it's coming to a bit of a head I thought maybe I would.
Should point out at this stage that this is personal stuff and nothing to do with Everton, sport, what I had for breakfast or what movies/music I'm currently listening to so anyone not interested beyond any of those things should look away now.....completely understand that people take TT at different levels and that's fine, all members and approaches are equally valid."

But TT, and members past and present, has/have been a huge part of my life for more than fifteen years now so the time has come to come clean on my current situation. First, and strangely not worst, my cancer has returned. I thought something wasn't right early July so went through series of tests/scans/biopsies which ended with the cancer being confirmed at the end of the month, it's actually not strictly speaking a recurrance because it's in a slightly different place to the last one but still in my throat. My only chance of surviving this time (can't have radio/chemo twice in the same place because of the damage RT in particular causes/caused) is an "extended laryngectomy" which means my voice box and part of my tongue will have to be removed and consequently I won't be able to talk, though there is a possibility of implants later that will give me some sort of artificial voice (though if I'm going to sound like a dalek I'll give it a miss). Also, will have to breathe through a hole in my neck (stoma) rather than nose/mouth which will likely feel a little weird. Eight hours surgery and probably two weeks in hospital pencilled in for early next month. The aim is for me to be able to eat and drink afterwards but no guarantees, possibly tube fed for life.

But like I said, not the worst of it. That is the fact that my wife, Debbie, went to bed on August 3rd and didn't wake up on the 4th, died in her sleep at 53. Impossible to describe the last couple of weeks or so; I don't have the words and none of our friends/family do and I don't expect anyone here to have them either. She had a bad chest that our GP had given her an x-ray referral for six weeks before she died but with virus delays her appt dropped through the door on August 5th. I was tempted to say yes do the x-ray people and tell them they'd find her in the mortuary but didn't. If there was no virus and she'd been seen immediately could something have been done? I don't know and there's really no point in getting angry about it, many people will die and already have as a result of the virus due not being able to see the people thay should when they needed to. Post mortem said Deb died from bronchopneumonia and lung abscess, but I've yet to speak to a doctor who could explain to me why.

Anyway, those are the bare bones of the crap that's rained down on me recently. Her funeral is next Friday and the day before I see my "team" and hopefully get a date for surgery. I'll still be here whenever I can and no plans (yet) to amputate my fingers so I'll be able to type.

Sorry to be so depressing (again).

Best wishes to all, friend and foe alike.

So sorry to see this mike. Wishing you all the strength at this time to you and your family.

My deepest condolences. 

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4 minutes ago, MikeO said:

....and on to the next hurdle, have my surgery booked for Tuesday 15th so I only have "my" voice for another week, maybe something artificial down the line if all goes well and I want it as I've already said.

Hopefully I'll be able to get online once I'm out of ICU but I'm not on the cancer ward this time (which has its own internet access) but a surgical ward which only uses the NHS one and is "hit and miss" according to reliable sources:unsure:

Going to feel very odd miming, "It's a Grand Old Team" next time I manage to get to a game but I'll cope:P

All the best, Mike. 

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25 minutes ago, MikeO said:

....and on to the next hurdle, have my surgery booked for Tuesday 15th so I only have "my" voice for another week, maybe something artificial down the line if all goes well and I want it as I've already said.

Hopefully I'll be able to get online once I'm out of ICU but I'm not on the cancer ward this time (which has its own internet access) but a surgical ward which only uses the NHS one and is "hit and miss" according to reliable sources:unsure:

Going to feel very odd miming, "It's a Grand Old Team" next time I manage to get to a game but I'll cope:P

You won’t have to mime mate. Hold on to Josh and he’ll belt it out twofold at least 

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1 hour ago, MikeO said:

....and on to the next hurdle, have my surgery booked for Tuesday 15th so I only have "my" voice for another week, maybe something artificial down the line if all goes well and I want it as I've already said.

Hopefully I'll be able to get online once I'm out of ICU but I'm not on the cancer ward this time (which has its own internet access) but a surgical ward which only uses the NHS one and is "hit and miss" according to reliable sources:unsure:

Going to feel very odd miming, "It's a Grand Old Team" next time I manage to get to a game but I'll cope:P

Sending strength your way Mike.  I'm sure you'll deal with this as stoically as always. 

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1 hour ago, MikeO said:

....and on to the next hurdle, have my surgery booked for Tuesday 15th so I only have "my" voice for another week, maybe something artificial down the line if all goes well and I want it as I've already said.

Hopefully I'll be able to get online once I'm out of ICU but I'm not on the cancer ward this time (which has its own internet access) but a surgical ward which only uses the NHS one and is "hit and miss" according to reliable sources:unsure:

Going to feel very odd miming, "It's a Grand Old Team" next time I manage to get to a game but I'll cope:P

I don’t think there’s hurdle out there that you can’t get over mate, and if you do get stuck my friend there’s no one on here who wouldn’t give you a lift up, we love you mate and are all rooting for you. 
My uncle in Canada had an artificial voice he got it in the mid 80s after a similar op to yourself, my auntie use to be mortified with him when they went shopping, his trick was to scare other shoppers kids, he would find it hilarious. 

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Mike, I’ve just found this thread after seeing your MOM post yesterday. So sorry to read what you’ve been through over the past few weeks, it’s very brave to write such personal stuff, I hope it helps you in coming to terms. From my own experiences of losing loved ones I found it very helpful to talk to others, I’m sure the TT community will continue to support you as much as we can. Best wishes and stay strong. Geoff

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Good morning Mike did you have a good night mate, hospital’s can be boring places to be at the best of time’s. 
Have you been able to organise a TV 📺 I thought I better highlight a television just in case someone thought I meant Transvestite, for watching the football, great news that you ended up with a such a big footy fan in your ward at least you can while away a few hours talking bollocks with each other😀, enjoy your scrambled eggs on toast mate😉👍

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52 minutes ago, MikeO said:

Not eaten anything solid for about six/eight weeks Palf so no eggs. TV is in place and internet speed is almost as good as at home. Being woken at six to have obs done no fun though! Slept fine, no snorers on the ward thank goodness and staff are brilliant. 

Didn’t realise you’d had no solids for so long mate that’s tough, sounds like a Bear Grylls form of extreme dieting😉 ,seems like you’re comfortable mate not an hotel but very bearable, with good staff a TV and internet sorted. And of course annoying fuckers like me disturbing your peace ☮️ 😂

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5 hours ago, MikeO said:

Well didn't expect this. Went as well as was possible apparently. 7.5 hours surgery, zero tongue removed (which should mean normal eating possible in time), no ICU just high dependency and now safely on ward,  being woken more than once an hour for obs, drips but not a problem floating in and out of consciousness. Quite pleasant in fact, must be the drugs😂. Not being able to speak feels a bit odd, I keep forgetting and attempting but nothing comes out, but no pain at all; again maybe the drugs.

Walk in the park so far, I imagine trials to come but so far so good 👍. Bit of internal bleeding earlier only issue so far but quickly sorted.

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Glad it's gone well for you Mike.  Fingers crossed for a full recovery. Your positivity is humbling. 

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6 hours ago, MikeO said:

Well didn't expect this. Went as well as was possible apparently. 7.5 hours surgery, zero tongue removed (which should mean normal eating possible in time), no ICU just high dependency and now safely on ward,  being woken more than once an hour for obs, drips but not a problem floating in and out of consciousness. Quite pleasant in fact, must be the drugs😂. Not being able to speak feels a bit odd, I keep forgetting and attempting but nothing comes out, but no pain at all; again maybe the drugs.

Walk in the park so far, I imagine trials to come but so far so good 👍. Bit of internal bleeding earlier only issue so far but quickly sorted.

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This has made my morning.

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4 minutes ago, Formby said:

I hope Nurses Cramer and Duckett are on hand for you, Mike. Take care and hope you're out of there soon to resume the combat missions. Little references I'm sure you'll get.

Was hoping for the maid in the lime-colored panties but I'll take what I can get:P

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16 hours ago, MikeO said:

Well didn't expect this. Went as well as was possible apparently. 7.5 hours surgery, zero tongue removed (which should mean normal eating possible in time), no ICU just high dependency and now safely on ward,  being woken more than once an hour for obs, drips but not a problem floating in and out of consciousness. Quite pleasant in fact, must be the drugs😂. Not being able to speak feels a bit odd, I keep forgetting and attempting but nothing comes out, but no pain at all; again maybe the drugs.

Walk in the park so far, I imagine trials to come but so far so good 👍. Bit of internal bleeding earlier only issue so far but quickly sorted.

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That’s brilliant news mate so pleased for you and the kids that it went so well👌

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